Are you his/her summer girl/guy?

Summer!!!!(???)

When you say summer, you think of sand, sun and waves…the blue skies, the shells and the kebabs..When I add, the word, girl…you’d think of skimpy bikini-clad girls strolling along the beach or frying themselves on the sand.

If I say, I don’t want to be a summer girl, you’d probably have a question-marked face if you’re kinda slow…and if you’re not, you’d understand what I just said.

Well, it wouldn’t be just girls, it can be guys…and it wouldn’t always be summer. But since summer pass by so quickly, therefore the term, summer girl/guy. Yeah, you can call it, fling…for some.

I would always say, "I think you are going to be his/her summer girl/guy," What are the signs that someone is treating you as a their summer girl/guy?

a. right timing - he/she is always there when you need someone. always has a drink to start up a conversation. always there after you had a fight. always there when you need to feel wanted. always there to say you're cute,pretty and smart....but, sometimes, s/he can’t make you feel complete or loved.

b. complicated status - s/he may or may not have anyone right now. says things are getting complicated….that s/he needs space and time that s/he wants a moment for her/himself. all s/he wanna do is have fun. says, s/he enjoys your company, but often doesn’t pursue to get to know you/. if s/he does, it would always be the "good side" and the "lonely side"

c. you know you are not that special to him/her. s/he may make you feel like a side dish….but, the lonely you, don’t care at all. it doesn’t matter if you hear that s/he has this girl/guy with at the coffee shop.

d. calls, messages but no commitments. s/he doesn’t give you exact time. the five minutes, would be five minutes, you waiting at the lobby for him/her. and apologies? are but extinction to him/her. smile and stride, that’s your cue.

e. perfect company. good conversation and laughs. you talk as if you're the perfect soul mates. but you know after that, s/he could have another good laugh and chat with someone else.

If you’re someone who’s just testing the waters, being a summer girl/guy is good thing. If you’re healing a wound, try not to take the summer girl/guy thing seriously, it would really break you. And if you suddenly realize that you had some summer girls/guys, don’t be too ashamed, everyone has their own girl and guy….but don’t be too proud either. There are lots of people I know who got lifetime scars from having too many summer girls/guys….

For, some summer girls/guys, are the ones that may have gotten away...

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Have I met a summer guy?

Guilty. But I will always go home with the man I love....